Barry Golten Blog

When people talk about being triggered it can be a source of controversy. Some of us react as if we are being told we have done something...

I get most of my good ideas while working with clients – indeed it's not unknown for me to borrow ideas directly from things they have...

Like many of us I have an active inner critic. It's that little voice in my head which tells me that what I’m doing isn’t good enough. Sometimes it wants me to work harder to make things better. Sometimes it tells me I may as well give up because I’m useless at this and I always will be.

I regularly hear people – including myself - saying the phrase “It is what it is”. I usually have a bit of a reaction to it – which I...

What does the new year mean to you? Clearly, it’s a concept that humans have devised. It’s not the shortest day and the sun and moon...

In previous blogs we talked about Managers, those busy parts of us which run our lives in the fear that if they don’t do this, some...

We all know what it’s like to be driven by parts of ourselves. When a friend tells me I’m very busy and a little voice inside says...

As I described in the previous post, we have Protector parts which work hard to keep our vulnerabilities hidden. The ones which get in...

So how does this IFS stuff actually work in practice?  As I explained in the last episode, it’s about creating more space in our systems...

I’m going to try to explain why I was so blown away by Internal Family Systems (IFS) and why do I think it’s such a helpful and...